Nothing on this planet is comparable to the love of a woman. It’s kind, compassionate patient, nurturing, generous and sweet and unconditional. Pure! If you are her man she will walk on water, throw thorns, rivers and mountains for you no matter how you have acted out. If the woman loves you, and I mean really loves you, she will shine you up when you are dusty, encourage you when you are down, defend you even when she is not sure you are right and hang on your every word, even when you are saying nothing worth listening.
And this is how all women expect us to love you in return. Ask any woman what kind of love she wants and she will sound like this: I want him to be humble and smart, fun and romantic, sensitive and gentle, and above all if he has a nice body and a lot of money and expensive shoes, that would be great too. Amen.
Well, I’m here to tell you that expecting that kind of love- perfection – from a man is unrealistic. That’s right.
If your man loves you, he is more than willing to tell anybody and everybody that, “look, man, this is my woman” or “this is my girl” or “this is my lady” or “this is my queen.” In another way, you will have a title – an official on that extends beyond “this is my friend” or “this is _ (insert your name).” That’s because a man who has placed you in the most special part of his heart – the man who truly has feelings for you – will give you a title. This is a way of letting others know that he is proud of you and he is professing for all to hear that he is serious about you. If he introduces you as his friend, have no doubt that’s what you are, nothing more.
The more a man can provide for his family, wife and kids, the more alive he feels. Let’s not even go to the family. If a guy cannot take you on a proper date and feel satisfied, he doesn’t feel alive. Men like being the providers. If your girlfriend or wife makes more money than you do, I guarantee you that you will feel out of place. If you are a man with kids and you cannot provide for then, you will always have that feeling of being incomplete.
Therefore, any man is obligated to provide for his girlfriend/wife and that’s why you find guys who make a lot of money telling their wives to quit their jobs stay at home and become housewives since he will be the provider for anything she needs. Therefore being broke is one of the reasons guys stay single.
I remember one day when I was a small boy, we were arguing with my friends. Things escalated then we started insulting each other. He made a mistake of insulting my mother. Believe me when I tell you I beat the shit out of him and up to this day I still wouldn’t treat you like a king or queen if you dared insult, my mum.
Men are generally created to protect women. Even some traditional African communities, to prove that you are a man (the rite of passage to adulthood) one had to kill a lion. It was a way to show that you could be a protector of your family from anything and also protect the community. In my previous story, if I could go to such lengths to protect my mum’s name, at what length do you think I would protect my future wife and kids? Even if my “wife” is scared of an insect, even if I am almost shitting my pants I must kill it no matter what.
Therefore, you might want us to love in a certain way and we understand and try to love you in that way, but this is how we were created.
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Steve Harvey – Think Like A Man